2004-07-29 - 12:33 p.m.
DS fell off the platform at Yoyogi station yesterday. He is totally OK , just a tiny little bruise on his back ...
but I'm still a little shaky to say the least.
it happened so fast, I'm not sure what happened.
It was on the platform , usually when there's a big gap I
take the 4 year old's hand, quickly help him onto the train, then turn and
lift the stroller with the baby in it and get on myself. I swear, he was
**ON** that train, but the next thing
I knew he had fallen into the gap . He landed on his feet, thank the gods. I
have a bit of a scrape on my arm where I pulled him up. He has just a teeny
little bruise on his lower back, probably from bumping the side of the
platform when he fell.
He's pretty tall for 4 and a half, we got him onto the platform pretty
fast, but wow that was scary! More for me than for him I think.
If he had been any smaller it would have been a lot worse. He was
back to normal, singing silly songs and harassing the baby within a few
minutes.
Ate a big dinner and remembered to brush his teeth (I forgot).
My faith in the human race is restored...at least ten people yelled out for
the conductor not to start the train and ran to help us. One woman even
stayed with
us for awhile to make sure we were OK, till the next train came.
The station attendants were really nice, so polite, checked him carefully,
didn't yell at me for being a terrible mother or anything.
DH wasn' t so easy though...I called him when we got home
(which in retrospect I shouldn't have since we're all OK)
his first reaction was, "Why did you have to go to Yoyogi today anyway?!"
When he got home, we went back and forth until midnight, him repeating that we need to quit playgroup because it's not safe to have the kids on the train so late in the
afternoon (group is from 3 to 5 p.m.)
DS is too tired and that's why he fell,
why am I "ignoring him" (DH) and putting our kids in danger
(by "ignoring him" he means not agreeing with him)
why do I have to take the kids out every day anyway,
why can't Wednesday just be our quiet day at home,
if anything happens it will be my fault and he will never forgive me,
I speak English to DS so why does he need English playgroup,
I should put him in daycare on Wednesdays if I feel he really needs to be
with other kids (he already goes every Monday and Thursday),
actually he's been uncomfortable with this playgroup because of the time
and location since we joined it but just didn't say anything,
we should at least take a summer break, everything else has a summer
break why doesn't this group......
blah blah blah.
Give me credit that 10 years ago he would have reduced me to a hysterical
pile of blubber and he would have been throwing and breaking things.
I just kept repeating that I am sorry it happened,
sorry I called him and upset him,
and I will be more careful,
I'll put the baby in her sling and fold up the stroller before we get on or
off the train, at least at stations with a big gap ...and I
mentioned how lots of people in Tokyo do stuff like leave their babies
alone at home
while they go shopping and how careful we are, to which he
just said, that's thier problem not our concern, and obviously you have to be **MORE** careful and went back to how
we need to quit the playgroup or at least take a long break
and why won't I listen to him (listen in this case means do what he says)
.
It's like the time I had a minor bike accident ages ago and his first
reaction was, "We're selling your bike tomorrow!"
We didn't sell the bike.
I don't intend to stop riding the trains.
But I think for awhile I'm going to be more than a bit nervous about it, It's interesting...I see all these parents doing really dangerous things
with their kids,
like careening down the street with a kid on the back of the bicycle with no
helmet, or driving a car while a baby is strapped on their back, or my
nextdoor neighbor who goes shopping, leaving her baby sleeping at home
alone....yes they do all these inexcusable things and yet this happens to me. No matter how careful you are, s*** happens
sometimes. Thankfully, most of the time we (and our babies) survive it.
Really makes me re-consider my belief that everything happens for a reason. This incident was just devastating and random.
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